A Level Of Success

A couple days ago I followed a tweet that lead me to a blog post listing the nine things every internet business needs to do to be successful.

Who this person was--I have no idea.

And to tell the truth--the second I see a list--I pass.  I don't bother mopping up any advice that can be neatly organized with a bunch of cutesy little bullet points.

But for some reason, this time, I indulged.  I read those nine little nuggets of things I--I as an internet business that is--should be doing to be "successful".  And when I was finished I nervously laughed.

I laughed because I barely do any of them--except write consistently I guess.

I'm not very strategic with social networking--my newsletters are so sporadic--and even though I read a handful of blogs regularly--I rarely leave a comment.  I'm a blogging James Dean I guess.

But the thing that hit me the most was the word "expert" being thrown around like spaghetti.

Expert?  I should be writing as an expert?

Sorry, but that really makes me laugh.

I wish I could even say that I'm an expert at my own life--but that's far from the truth, chicas.

Ok, so maybe I'm an expert at FEARLESS™ painting?  Right?

Actually--I'm always learning something new about FEARLESS™ painting with each Tribe I lead through BIG.  Saying I'm an expert at FEARLESS™ Painting would be like saying Johnny Depp and I are having a hot and heavy love affair.

But, this stupid list started to itch at me.  I started to wonder if maybe I should be doing all those 8 other things I'm not so on top of my game with.  If I should be switching things around--reassessing my idea of "success".  I started to worry and even panic a bit---all the reasons why I never let myself indulge in any ol' bullet pointed list online.  I started to get tangled up in self judgement and anxiety.

Than Hansel started playing some sexy Latin music.  He salsa'd his way over to me, grabbed my hips, and we began to groove.  Our living room instantly turned into a Central American cantina and I forgot about bullet points, social networking, and all that other bullshit.

I was back in my body again--back living in the present moment--back being fully, 100%, beautifully me.  Back enjoying life.

That's all I needed.  A little rumba to knock me out of my funky funk.

And so when we were finished, I came back to my essence--back to stillness--back inward to listen to my heart.  And I remembered that I never once went into any of this to be a business.

I went into all of this to stay more fully in alignment with my truth.
To stay connected to Creative Source.
To listen to my innate wisdom--and if anything--to guide others to do the same.

So maybe there are things I should be doing to fit another person's level of success.

But as for now, I'm doing alright fulfilling my own.


Lisa said...

Aiy yi yi chica! I love it! Been thinking the exact same recently (of course) and dancin' my way outta my own insanity. (Or back into it perhaps)

Painting Herself Into Being said...

Amen sistah!!! Keep on flowing it from your heart of hearts! It is most certainly working for you!


Svehex said...

Keep doing what you're doing.That's the way you are.And that's the way we want to see you.

I'm a business owner,and I don't want to follow those either.I don't care if I don't make as much money as I might have.

Nicole Rushin said...

Love this post. Marketers have a way of making people feel like they are doing everything wrong so they can be the perceived 'Expert.' In the end, good marketing teaches us to be free and let go. I also hate bullet lists and mostly won't read them, but once read a post from a so called expert who said that good content must be written in bullet form.

hali said...

Perfect! just perfect. and it's why you are soooo good at what you do - being You, one step at a time - and why that is sooooo very inspiring for so many of us. love love love!!

Tara @ Aquamarine Art said...

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! I laughed so much and remembered too. I get sucked into the shoulds way too easily and forget to question them at all. I never feel comfortable using the word business when I'm talking about my paintings, but then, why should I?! Yay for you! Again. :)

Tracy Carlton said...

amen. hallelujah. sister goddess.
say YES!!!!!!
love you.

Marlaine said...

Expert = Ex (has been) spert (drip under pressure). I do not aspire to be a has been drip under pressure. LOL

Peggy K said...

Word, Sister!!!!!!!!!

Seriously, you hit on something when you mention expert. At what point does one become an expert? By what judgement call is it official? You ARE an expert, Connie, because you are true to you and you share that with others. That, in turn, allows them to grow. I know you've done that for me!

So here's to fulfilling your own. And here's to sexy men who know when the time is right to turn on the music. And here's to authenticity!!

laurie said...

it is so easy to let other people's advice make us question what we know is true for ourselves. but maybe each time we go through this process and resist, we become stronger. you and what you offer the world are so much more than a business!

Heather Dakota said...

I so needed to hear that! I was struggling with my own funkity funk about my business and forgot to go inward and see if everything was still in line. Thanks for the reminder!!

Cynthia said...


This weekend I was slammed by someone offering me opinion and advice about something in my life. Someone who doesn't know me; doesn't know my story; someone who is considered and "expert" in her community.

This morning I wrote about how I was never taught to trust myself, trust my own wisdom. First there were these experts with this point of view ... and then there were another set of experts with a completely different perspective. All offering their formulas to achieve results.

Formulas. rules that supposedly apply to each person in each situation. no. No. NO!

Humans are too intricate for formulas.

Today's morning pages were all about this topic and today's art journaling page? Trust your own Wisdom!

And THAT my dear friend, is the lesson I have been learning from You! If anything, that is your expertise. Your trusting yourself teaches me to trust myself, to listen to my wisdom.

Thank you!

Cheryl said...

Hail Mary, full of grace. Amen, sista.

Anonymous said...

You are utterly AMAZING! I love your approach to everything you do because you are being REAL all of the time. I am SO proud of you for not running away from the man who wanted to help you. I realize you tried to but, in the end you didn't and that is what counts. BLESS HIM for loving you enough to not allow you to run from this part of yourself!! Your internet presents is a wonderful gift to my heart!! Thank you for being exactly who you are. I know that's not easy yet you do it with GRACE and STYLE!!!!
The RICHEST blessing to you my friend in cyber space,
Polly Ann

Symbolic Skin said...

Good for you!!
I can't wait for both my kids to be at sleep at once one of these evenings to try out some fearless painting =)

Hands to Work, Hearts to God said...

I should try some dancing...not because I need it, but so i won't! Thanks for your posts! I am so enjoying them. I think you're a terrific person! Patsy from

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